I've been thinking about this a lot lately - the whole Tolerance thing.
I posted a question on my Facebook page last month. It was: "Is irony or hypocrisy that has made us so intolerant of intolerance?"
Understandably, very few people responded to it since it's a question with no right answer - being intolerant of intolerance is a paradox. We are supposed to be tolerant of those who have ideas that differ from ours. Then again, if we hold true to that, we must also be tolerant of people whose ideas make them intolerant of opposing ideas. It's not "tolerance" if we agree with them - that's agreement or acceptance. It's not tolerance.
For me, I have an answer I am at peace with. In order for it to work, though, I need to bring it inside myself. Would I do business with someone who hates me because of my beliefs? No. I wouldn't. But that's me. It's not because they don't believe what I believe, but it's because they are intolerant of "me" personally. I can't be forced to nor expected to support someone who wouldn't do the same for me.
Would I do business with someone who tolerates someone who is intolerant with me? Sure - because I need to be tolerant of tolerance as well as intolerance. I can't hold someone else hostage to my beliefs. They are being truly tolerant by not hating me for my ideas and also for not hating the intolerant person for theirs.
Then again, someone might, for example believe that everyone with blue eyes is a lesser human being than others. I have blue eyes so they must hate me - yet maybe they are willing to do business with me despite their beliefs. Isn't that a sign of tolerance?
Ultimately, it comes down to the individual.
Kim, you and I disagree on many political hot-topics, but our disagreements in these areas have never affected our respect and admiration for each other. We just disagree and tolerate each others beliefs because we understand the whole of the person isn't dictated by one or even several things that we disagree on.
If a person is absolutely intolerant of your ideas in favor of their own, then of course - I wouldn't do business with them. But, be careful not to let cynicism trick you into thinking that a disagreement on an idea is the same as hating the whole. It may very well be, but I've found that it's rarely the case.
Personally, I believe that any private person or business has every right in the world to not do business with any other private person or individual for ANY reason - or even no real reason at all. But, if I were to believe that, for example, that a bakery MUST provide a cake for a gay wedding even if that goes against their beliefs, then I must also believe that I MUST do business with someone who disagrees with any other belief I have - regardless of the popularity or unpopularity of that train of thought. Choosing to not do business with someone doesn't need a reason, in my opinion. And if you do have a reason, you are not obligated to share that reason. Your reasons are your own and I, nor the government, have any right to interfere or judge you on that.
My advice, here, is to be careful not to fall into the trap I've described above. You have to look in yourself and really decide what you believe in. Do you believe that others need to be tolerant of the things you believe? If so, you must also be tolerant of theirs. Do you believe that you can be intolerant of someone's intolerance? If so, then you have to accept that they can be intolerant of yours. Any other combination here is either hypocritical or a paradox that cannot resolve itself.
I know, I know, it's really hard in this day and age where society has managed to create so many paradoxes for us. The people who believe that abortion is murder tend to be the same people who want to upload the death penalty - while conversely, the people who believe that abortion is a choice want to abolish the death penalty. The people who are for increasing social programs are against the economic system which would pay for those programs while the people who are for the system that could support them are against the programs. These are confusing times.
I will not judge on any decision you make because, of course, in my mind you are free to believe whatever you want to believe. But, for your own sanity, don't create a paradox for yourself that you can never put into alignment. You will never be able to find peace and happiness if you try to adhere to unwinnable scenarios that are also driving your actions.
I hope that helps.